This is a simple plea to women everywhere. Stop tearing each other down when what we should be doing is building each other up! So many things have happened recently that has led me write this post and if you are not interested in reading further I understand. But, I feel like it's gone on too long and I have to get this out! I hate hearing of girls talking about each other when the other isn't around, or criticizing the choices that one of their friends has made. It's one thing to be a good friend to someone and try to stop them from making bad decisions, but it's another to constantly talk about the situation over and over again, knowing that you cannot change anything and each time judging them a little bit more.
As you know (and maybe you don't) I am a Premier Designs Jeweler. One of the things I love most about my job is the fact that I can help build ladies up and watch as their confidence grows, simply by bringing over some jewelry to show them and let them try on. Women are constantly looking for acceptance. We do this through working with peers and within our circle of friends too. How many times have you talked to someone about a mundane topic but as soon as you turn the topic to them, you can visually see them light up? It happens all the time!
At my jewelry home shows, I'll be showing an ensemble on my mannequin and sometimes I'll get a reaction, maybe an "oh or ah." But it's not until someone tries on the piece and has others compliment her that they really start to perk up.
I just think there are so many times where women are critiqued, criticized, judged and gossiped about, that I think it's time for women to lift each other up in praise and compliments and try to build relationships with other women, in a healthy way.
Starting today I am going to practice what I preach. If you want to gossip about someone, don't come to me. If you want to talk about what a friend was wearing or that so and so needs to lose 10lbs, save it. I'm tired of hearing it and don't want the negativity and drama around me. I'm done contributing to it in any way and i'm taking a stand against it.